The latest statistics are in, the workplace has become the number one (#1) place for cheating, married people or people in relationships who are unfaithful to engage in infidelity, cheating or having an affair to meet the other person is at work.

As women have become more and more aof a force in the workplace, the old suspicions about the boss and the young secretary carrying on an affair, has taken the back burner by an increase in the number of men and women who work together on common ground becoming romantically involved with each other and having affairs at work. The separation of the sexes has passed and the boundaries to interaction have been replaced by no boundaries. Hearing about the “girls from the office” or the “men at work” has transformed in the “gang at work”

As you know, people get to know each other when they work together. The coed workplace is now a breading ground and because of, team work, travel, projects and long work hours, it leads to men and women growing closer together.  Theses people share the same employer and conduct the same type of work and have lunch at the same time, ect. 

They ca not avoid being close, the things they have in common and the time they spend together can lead to friendship. These very people spend more time with other people than there own spouses, this new friendship can be the beginning of a new relationship. These people become emotionally attached to one an other. These kind of friendships lead to strong emotional bonds.  They start to feel that they have more in common with their co-worker than their spouse. The most noticeable theme is that they work together, grow to understand one another and “relate” better to this co-worker than they do to their spouse.  There is a sense of false security for these people because the new person does not add any pressure of bills and financial difficulties into the relationship and it almost seems like they will have a better calmer relationship than the one they are having, without realizing that if they were to move in together all of the same problems they are having at home will soon surface in their new relationship.  The grass usually is not greener on the other side.

They do not usually look at what they are doing as cheating, since they start off as friends and slowly fall for each other they feel as if it was meant to be.  By the time they are romantically involved it is to late the bond only gets stronger and now they are faced with the prospect of leaving their spouses to be together.

For those cheaters who don’t view their new friendship/relationship as being inappropriate, they will rationalize their conduct. The friendship slowly turns into more in a moment of weakness at a company party or an intimate moment is created when one friend needs to be consoled over something. These people truly believe that this situation just happened to them and was meant to be. They genuinely fail to realize how emotionally attached they are to the other person. They also believe that this is a common thing to happen and that society has grown to accept this.

There are also the cheaters that just don't care and they prey on new victims everyday with their flirtations.  If you had a fight with your spouse the night before and they go to work to be complimented and hit on by someone new, who knows what will happen in a moment of weakness.  For starters this new friendship will be born that will only lead to trouble.

Workplace Affairs Usually Start At The Office Party

The typical office Christmas party is when many extramarital affairs begin.
Detroit, Michigan November 17, 2005 -- According to many of the latest statistics, the workplace has become the biggest place for married or attached people who engage in extramarital affairs to meet someone else.  If you are not invited to the office party there probably is a reason why.

As women become more successful and make more headway society, the old standard about the employer and the young secretary
carrying on an affair has been overtaken by the masses, men and women who work together becoming romantically involved.  There used to be a separation of the sexes in the workplace but that is no longer with men and women working side by side in the workplace.

During the holiday season there are a lot of parties with drinking involved. Everyone is in good spirits and as people drink they loosen up and and say and do what really is on there minds. For that reason holiday parties one of the dangerous times for co-workers who are cheating end up getting together.  More alarming that is the spouses that have been harboring feelings for a fellow co-worker but does not act on it until the office party. The November issue of Men’s Health magazine (December 2005 –Wary Christmas) reports that 45% of males polled showed that they have cheated with a co-worker of the opposite sex at a holiday office party at some point in their life.  Sandra Hope, owner and a private investigator with Mate Check Private Investigations stated: “If you suspect that your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend is having an affair at work you really should have us see who they go to lunch with on their lunch hour and who they hang out with at office parties. Don't forget about conventions as well." Being a fly on the wall is the only true way to truly know a person. When people drink to much they act impulsively without thinking things through. We have nearly countless cases where we have followed a husband or wife from a Christmas or office party to a steamy session in one of there cars in a parking lot, hotels or back to the office over a desk.

As a good example, Mate Check Private Investigations had the opportunity to work with a client named Karen from Scottsdale, Arizona who is willing to share some of her case. She reports, “I hired Mate Check to watch my husband at a Christmas function in December of 2004. This party was held in a private room at a restaurant. The investigator was able to document my spouse with a button camera drinking and trying to pick up a sales woman from his office who I suspected he was interested in all along. After the party was over, my spouse and some of his associates stayed at the bar in the restaurant and drank more. The Mate Check private investigator watched as my husband and this woman went into the men’s room together and there was sounds of sex coming from the door. The investigator followed them in the bathroom and overheard them having sex in a stall. He waited until they were done and he used hidden button camera to film them coming out of the stall, putting their clothes on and laughing right in front of the private investigator.  They really got me the video I needed.  I confirmed my spouse had semen in his underwear after using Mate Checks DNA test kit on the undergarment”

Affairs in the Workplace Part II.

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