As everyone knows, both sexes are guilty of infidelity in marriage. The blame for a broken relationship is not the fault of one gender or the other; however, there are several aspects of infidelity that are more attributable to women than men.

The reasons women cheat vary considerably. Some get involved in extramarital affairs because they are lonely, others because they want to escape the monotony of marriage. Still others are motivated to cheat as a form of revenge after they find lipstick or other tell-tale signs of their husbands' infidelity. Then there are the selfish, character-flawed women who marry good men, who love and take care of them, but continue to consort with other men for sexual excitement or for the money and other material goods these men can provide.

Women are not nearly as inclined to engage in infidelity purely for the sexual gratification. They tend to select a partner that they feel is an “upgrade” or somehow a better selection (i.e. the rock star or alpha male syndrome). They tend to engage in an affair with someone they want to be with and see over and over as opposed to simply finding someone that arouses them and giving them physical pleasure. The naturalistic view is that a cheating wife is simply following her instincts and looking to be with the “better” animal. She moves away from her husband to be with a man who is stronger, better off, smarter, etc. It is instinctual and natural. Although we do not buy into that idea whole heartedly, the truth is that a wife can want something more and may try and find it with someone else. This can range from finding someone she relates with better, all the way to being a gold digger and finding a guy who can give her more things than you. The “better man” theory, whether the other guy is better or not, holds true. If this is the case, the infidelity is likely to be a simple precursor to a new relationship and it is only an affair because she does not have the other guy locked in yet. Another basic idea which everyone has heard of is that women often marry for security as opposed to love. The idea is that they need someone, so they get married, not necessarily to the man of their dreams. Along with this idea is its partner, the idea that women are always looking for the best mate they can find. They will “upgrade” if an opportunity presents itself. As private investigators specializing in this type of work, we see many examples of cheating wives who are not merely having an affair for the sex or the thrill of it, but are trying to start a new relationship. They are working on this “upgrade” while continuing to maintain their existing marriage.

A lack of sex or sex that is not satisfying is another major motivator the leads a wife to cheat. We have found that this is particularly true when the cheating wife tried to keep the sexual relationship with her spouse going strong but was met with disappointment. She stays in good shape, tries to be sexy and interesting for him and he is still bored with sex or worse yet, will not give her pleasure the way she wants it. There is no romance and no connection. A wife who has gone through this is far more likely to cheat when someone shows a true interest in her.

Paybacks are a bitch, and if you cheated on her, she may well pay you back by doing the same. We have seen many cases of a wife cheating on her husband as revenge for his infidelity or believed infidelity. Women have come out of the cave and they have sexual power. It is far easier for a woman to get a man to have sex with her then the opposite. Women know this and many will cheat to get back or to level the playing field.

Some sexual behavior research indicates that the cheating wife may see herself as a victim of the “Little Woman Syndrome”. This is essentially a case where a working wife is made to feel like the “little woman” in her marriage rather than a partner. She works just as hard as her husband, but at the end of the day, she still has to raise the kids, clean the house and be the quiet wife so her husband can go out with the guys or watch TV all night. Working women who contribute a lot in the workforce and want to be treated with the respect they deserve come home to a life that they do not want. They are surrounded with people who treat them with respect at the office and they want the same from a marriage that will not give it to them. This is a wife who may cheat because she wants to be with someone who will treat her like an equal.

Something that is not gender specific but is worth mentioning is that in almost all cases of a cheating wife is the overall idea that something is wrong in the marriage. At least one of them is unhappy and most likely both are. Someone’s needs are not being met and something does not work the way that either partner wants it to.

Investigating cheating and marital infidelity is one of the most important services a private investigator can render. Regardless of whether you need to know the truth simply to go forward with your life, or if you need proof of cheating and infidelity to win in court, Mate Check is the Private Investigator agency for you. We leave nothing to chance!

You're in a relationship with a wonderful girl, which makes it even harder to fathom that she may be cheating on you. A cheating wife or girlfriend is a concern that haunts many a man in relationships, and the thought of your lady putting her paws on another man makes your skin crawl.

So how can you spot a cheating wife or girlfriend, and what do you do about it?
signs of a cheating wife
Although there are signs that can indicate that your girlfriend is two-timing you, the thing to keep in mind is that you're looking for a change in her behavior patterns. The key to spotting a cheating wife or girlfriend is change , so if she's always been a guy's girl and has a lot of male friends, don't get all paranoid when you hear that she was seen with her friend Max at the movies, for example.

The following are 5 signs that she may be letting someone else taste her pudding:

1- She's no longer as needy
If she was never able to go shopping, exercise, or cross the street alone, and she suddenly doesn't need your company, it may mean that someone else is filling your shoes. It's possible that she just needs time to herself, but if she's unusually independent when she used to be overly needy, it may signal that she's just no longer as needy... of you.

2- She no longer gets angry
She used to get angry if you didn't want to meet her for lunch or come out with her and her friends, but now everything you do is all right by her. Once upon a time, your every move had to be premeditated, but now all the small things you used to mess up aren't enraging her. This could be a good thing, but you wonder why she no longer cares.

3- She's being secretive
She's no longer sharing her daily events with you, and in order to find out what she's doing, you'd have to break open her diary because she's not volunteering any information regarding the goings-on of her life. Of course, you could always ask...

4- She places the focus on you
When you do ask her questions, she turns the tables on you. The former chatterbox's batteries have run out and when you ask her how her night was, mum's the only word. It's now all about you, you, you, rather than "I did this" and "I went here last night."

5- She showers you with pleasure
Now that it's all about you, your girlfriend is always complimenting you, asking you to go out, giving you "I love you" cards for no reason whatsoever, and even offering to wash your car and watch the boxing match with you. While these gestures are more than sweet, it's this kind of overcompensating behavior that can make one suspicious. If she's bombarding you with niceties, it might be nice to know what's really going on.

What's going on here?

get to the bottom of things
As I said earlier, these signs aren't the be-all end-all that she's been unfaithful. Change is the most important factor that must be evaluated if you find yourself suspicious of her, so look at how she used to be, and how she is now.

If she's spending less time with you, for example, it could either mean that she's avoiding you because she feels guilty for her actions, or she just doesn't care to spend as much time with you. The latter could be a sign of cheating, but it may also be the cause of why .
how to handle it
Now there's no need to get all paranoid and suspicious. If you think that her recent behavior isn't adding up or you catch her lying, then do not accuse her of cheating. Think about whether she's given you a reason to believe that she's two-timing you, or whether it's your imagination running wild because you're afraid of losing her.

You have a feeling
If you think she may be cheating, approach her but don't bring up the cheating. Ask her if everything is okay, and tell her that she's been acting different lately. Give her examples of how her behavior has changed, and tell her that you want to know and understand if there's a reason.

You want to open the lines of communication and encourage her to open up about what is troubling her in the relationship, and proceed from there. Approaching a cheating wife can be a delicate situation.

You have more than a sneaking suspicion
If you have adequate reason to believe that she's cheating on you, do not accuse or threaten her because if you're wrong, she'll feel that you really don't trust her. Rather than exclaiming, "I know what's going on!" or "Who have you been messing around with?", ask, "Is there something I should know about?" or "I have reason to believe that you're not being 100% honest with me."

This may seem passive, but you want to approach the topic carefully because if you're wrong, you may be messing up big time. But if you're right, then you have permission to raise Cain.

You catch her or have concrete evidence
If there is no way that this is a misunderstanding and you are positive that she's been pawing another dog, then you can approach her with more assertion. Tell her what you saw, how it makes you feel, and what you plan to do about it.

Can you ever trust her again?

Being unfaithful in a relationship is horrible, but there is a bigger picture here. You have to realize that a cheating wife may be the result of a problem in your relationship. If she's deceiving you by getting cuddly with another man, it could mean that she is going elsewhere to find what your relationship lacks, which doesn't make her actions right, only less despicable.
forgive and forget
If you discover that she cheated on you, there are a few questions you must ask yourself:

Can you trust her again?

If the answer is No:
You can't get back together.

If the answer is Yes:
It may take time, but you can give it another try. You'll have to tell her that it'll be hard to trust her, but with her help and time, it can happen.

Why do you think she did it?

If she doesn't tell you why:
You'll have to evaluate whether you can still forgive her.

If it has to do with your relationship:
When you're ready, you can work on the problems in your relationship.

Is your relationship worth another try?

If you can move past her deceit and give her another chance, then when you're ready, sit down, talk to her, and try to understand why she did it. There may be no reason at all (it could just be the fault of stupidity with a pinch of vodka), but if there is a reason why she cheated on you, then ignoring why she did it can lead it to happen again -- and then you'll be cheating yourself.

We all make mistakes, which doesn't make cheating acceptable, but if she shows remorse for her actions and if she's worth the effort of giving it another shot, then you can forgive although you may need more time to forget.


If you think that spousal surveillance can help you, we recommend that you read a quick Overview of Surveillance.
You may also want to consider hiring a male decoy ( also known as Honey Trappers ) to approach your wife to see if he could strike up her interest to take the bait and come into contact with the male decoy.  Once you are armed with this information you have to find out what went wrong between the two of you so you can fix it, before it is to late.  If you believe an affair is already the it is important to hire a private investigator to follow this person and track them with a GPS tracking device at all times to quickly get the truth.  Call +1 (866) 640.1010 for more information on either option.

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The Cheating Spouse's Cheat Sheet:
36 Things Every Guy Should Know Before He Cheats.

First, before we start, this is what is going to happen to you if you aren't careful:

So, after more than a decade of experience in the Private Investigation field, and catching countless men who decide to cheat, I figured that the cheaters needed a cheat sheet. So, here are 36 things you need to think about before you cheat to give them at least a fighting chance.

1. The friend you tell today will be the former friend who rats you out tomorrow…. They will rat you out. They always do. Why? Because there are two types of friends:

   • The friend who wants to bang your girlfriend.

   • The friend who is a good person.

   Either way, they are going to tell on you.

2. STDs are real and there are lots of skanky women who carry them, especially among women who are willing to cheat with you. A diamond may be forever, but gonorrhea lasts a helluva long time too. Get one, and you are screwed in more ways than one.

3. Hook up in public and chances are good that you will be spotted by someone you don't know who knows you, and knows your girlfriend. It's a small world. Or worse, you could end up on Google's street view, like this guy coming out of a strip club:
    

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                                            Wife caught cheating above, play and see.

1. Some women are crazy. Yes, even the hot ones, so beware that the cool chick you hook-up with may become the next stalker, call your real girlfriend just to get back at you, sleep with roommate type, mutilate you, etc. They would not have a support group if I was kidding.

2. The hookup girl may play it cool for a while, but chances are she wants to be the full time thing and she will secretly work to get you busted.

3. The more you go back for some, the greater the risk you will get busted.

4. Yes, she will lie to you about being on the pill and actually get pregnant. (See numbers 2, 3, 5, 6)

5. Girlfriends find credit card receipts. Then you have to go out and buy everything you bought your mistress for her. This is bad.

6. If you are meeting your side thing at your place, your neighbors know and sometimes they talk to girlfriends. Especially if you live in an apartment with thin walls.

7. Girlfriends see text messages on your phone from other women. From miles away. It's like a female radar. Their femme sense goes off the second it shows up in your text box. This is a documented fact.

8. Girlfriends see strange numbers on your phone and investigate them. This remains true for 800 and 900 numbers as well.

9. When men cheat, it usually means that they are looking for something their girlfriend is not providing. Realize that your real relationship is already screwed.

10. If you truly love your girlfriend, expect some serious, painful guilt. I mean, the kind that gnaws at your soul. If you still have one.

11. You could end up on one of those fun websites in the spotlight like WomanSavers.com

12. Your girlfriend's family and friends have a longer memory than she does. Long after girlfriend forgave you, her family and friends will still hate you.

13. Your girlfriend WILL cheat on you in retaliation. She won't tell you about it, ever, but she and her girlfriends will share many a giggle at your expense. Oh yeah, the guy she cheats with will be hotter than you.

14. If she does "grudge fuck" someone else to get back at you, if possible, it will be with someone you hate. Or worse, your best friend.

15. Your girlfriend will try harder than anything to forget what you did. She will not. It will always hurt.

16. Trying to date two women costs three times as much.

17. If you want to fix things with your girlfriend, she will forgive you, but the relationship will change. She will always have trust issues with you from that moment on, no way around it. Besides, you deserve it.

18. If your girlfriend chooses not to forgive you and it looks as if she has moved on; She has, move on. Don't go crazy and stab someone just because you got caught. Especially on national TV, like this idiot..

     

19. If you are going to try and come clean and fix things with your girl, expect that she will ask for all the sordid details. She will likely get even more hurt and pissed when you describe what you and other babe did, but if you lie, she will know it and get hurt worse. More importantly, whatever you did with her, your girlfriend will refuse to do with you - ever. It is too "painful" to even think about, much less perform.

20. A girlfriend is not beyond installing monitoring software or a physical key logger on your PC. Sure it's a crime, but who wants to be the "asshole who cheated on his girlfriend and then filed charges for getting caught". The risk of publicly acknowledging your infidelity is too great.

21. If your girlfriend has had a "secret crush" on your best friend, now is the time she will "befriend him". You will lose both her and your friend. They will be happier without you.

22. Even if the other woman says she is cool with just having casual sex with you and is not emotionally committed, its not true, she cares and it will come out at some point. She may become violent.

23. Your girlfriend and her girlfriends share very intimate details of their lives with each other. She will let everyone know that you cry when having sex.

24. There are hundreds of signs that you may exhibit that tell your girl that you are cheating that you are unaware of like . http://www.matecheckpi.com/html/signscheating.html you don't realize it, but you are guilty of most of them.

25. Girlfriends will seek support from YOUR friends and family. They will resent you, not her.

26. Keep your story straight. Girlfriends are often very methodical and like a criminal defense attorney, they will tear apart your story and try and exploit each gap they find. When they do, they will tear apart you and try to exploit each gap they find. Chances are, you will fail at this. If you are stupid enough to cheat, you aren't smart enough to lie your way out of it.

27. Girlfriends will "date up" after you since she will realize this will pain you the most. Maybe your boss, or your richer, more successful brother, or sister.

28. If you share a child together, you will pay support and she will spend it on anything and anyone that she wants to. (see "the new boyfriend" in #30)

29. Your girlfriend will immediately begin to fantasize about her old boyfriends.

30. Girlfriends will "scratch" up your prized car/boat/motorcycle, destroy your things or throw them out.

    

    Sorry, let's try a different view...

    

    That is 5 pick axes, not just 4.

31. The well motivated girlfriend will catch you. This is particularly true when you are engaged. Engaged women will pay an expert private investigator to get proof of what you are up to. They will catch you. They will use video cameras too.

     

    She may "befriend" the investigator to get you back.

32. Once disposed of, the now ex-girlfriend may contact your next real girlfriend and befriend her, then drop the hammer on you.

33. Some girlfriends will take things public and put pictures of you in your banana hanger on the internet with a story about what an asshole you are. Everyone online will know about it.

     

    Tell Tale Signs of A
    Cheating / Unfaithful Spouse
     

      The following is a guide to help you determine if your mate is cheating on you. After reading this list you may find there is some area of concern. Do not confront the cheater. This will only cause them to clean up their act and make it more difficult for you to catch them. You may not have enough proof to make your case. I would urge you to seek professional help.

     

    * At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.
     

    * After the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind.

     

    * Cheating spouses may lose attention in the activities in the home. They don't show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires to do any fix-ups to the home (i.e. lawn care, house repairs, etc.....)

     

    * Intuition (gut feeling) that something is not right usually is a sign you may have a cheating problem "when in doubt check them out".

     

    * Cheaters may have a change in sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.

     

    * The cheater has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate (i.e. if he/she didn't act the way they do, well then maybe I wouldn't be doing the things I do).

     

    * Another sign is "Finances". "If someone wants to play they have to pay" therefore keeping an eye on their monies (i.e. check stubs, bank account balances, credit card bills, etc...) would tell you whether their spending more money than usual.

     

    * Grooming habits will change. Cheaters will be more attentive to their person (i.e.. the way they dress, frequent bathing, physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of colognes, etc...).

     

    * Physical signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair is lipstick on the collar, odors of cologne/perfume on a shirt/blouse, checking underwear for secretion stains. You can also check their wallets and/or the glove compartments of their car to see if they left receipts, pieces of paper with phone numbers, addresses, condoms, etc.

     

    * You may want to monitor your spouse for two weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. Keep a calendar and note the times, this should help you establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime.

     

    * Be tuned in to home telephone calls when your mate has a tendency to whisper or gives a quick answer and immediately hangs up or when you answer the telephone and get an abrupt hang up.

     

    * Many cheaters use cellular telephones to communicate with their lovers. Should your mate have a cellular telephone you may want to get a detailed billing of the calls made from the cellular phone to determine whether a certain number has been frequently called. A good area to start looking is for the first number called when your mate first leaves for work and the same number called again right before they return home.

     

    * Female cheaters are more discreet in the selection of a lover . This is most likely because of their concern of Sexually Transmitted Disease's (STD's). Most females are looking for a longer lasting relationship rather than a "one night stand". In past years men were the aggressors, in society today, with the increase of women in the work force, women have become equally aggressive.

     

    * When a female is having an affair she tends to have more of a "glow" about her.

     

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